My personal space

How come I write about this? Today I was going through some tips on how to improve real-time software application development. The author has very meticulously listed down quite a few points which can be classified as a checklist of Don'ts during development. Kudos to him. All the more for I stuck upon a particular statement the author had highlighted - "My problem is different - Learn from mistakes of others..rarely is a problem so different to be ignored".

This statement has started a flurry of opinions within me. Opinions vastly biased and now highly confused. This statement probably reflects a strong trait of myself and I realise it the more I go brood over the above statement.

What will this post contain?

I have now try and justify the particular trait that I am talking about.I will debate and try and see whether it acts as a virtue or a vice for me.

What I know about myself?

I always pride myself on my principles, honour is foremost. And a thing I try is to respect one's personal space. Be it colleagues, seniors, parents, rarely do I intrude until I find an opportune moment. This might be a bit different with friends, people whom I consider so close to ignore this demarcation. To illustrate, I find it very uncomfortable if I spring upon two people deep in conversation. It may be they are stuck with some issues which I am very competent in solving. Or they might be discussing something which I am not aware and would have been better off having shared their views. But so be it. I would rather miss something important than make a nuisance of myself.

There are some times of the day when I love to be myself and be aloof and spend sometime with myself. These mood shifts are so very frequent and irregular that even I am not sure how to handle those times. Right now it is feeling like bliss for I am undisturbed, listening to Bryan Adams and being able to pen down something about myself which I would love to explore and understand. I love to keep my world to myself. I love those moments when I have spent the whole monsoon afternoon reading a book and staring at the outside world, those chilly winter nights which I spent lying coyly in my room at the college hostel.

I attribute this trait to being a single child. I had everything a child could ask for - indoor sports , toys and parents willing to spend their time with you. My entire summers were invariably spent in the backyard playing cricket or tennis. So much so that I hated being away from home for any extended period of time. Seldom have I found it troublesome to idle away a whole day all by myself.

This has sometimes made things a bit complicated for me mostly in college and now in work. I feel this has limited my scope of sharing and increasing my knowledge. Maybe I would not have wasted time on those issues faced by my colleagues earlier but only if I had the sense of participating in conversations. This probably helps in having a broader outlook and being abreast of varied opinions.

Still it seems I respond better when asked for.

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